Pondering Life Questions With My Son…

The other night before bed, my 12 year old son asked me, “If heaven is so great, and you always tell me I’m a big ball of love and light that came from there and will return there after I die – then why do we come here? Why not just stay in heaven forever?”

Whelp. I guess he’s definitely my kid. At this point my husband would have said, “go ask your Mom.”

Why do we come to Earth? Perfect, let’s dive into this at 10pm on a Monday night.  I do love this question though and thought it worth sharing our conversation.

I began by explaining it’s my belief that it’s our Soul’s choice to visit Earth. I believe the larger aspect of us, which you might call your Soul/Higher Self/Awareness/Consciousness, chooses when to incarnate (I believe we incarnate for many lives), to which parents, which part of the world, and which circumstances. I like to think of it as going to an amusement park or choosing to play a game. But of course Earth steps it up a notch by being a wildly immersive, multi-sensory, all-inclusive game.

The game of Life.

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The KEY to Real Change and Happiness…

Are you craving something different but not sure what?

Are you overwhelmed with thoughts of the past, anxiety over the future, or just plain indecisive?

Do you long to feel a connection to your purpose here on Earth?

Are you seeking more happiness? More peace? More adventure?
What a wonderful space to be in!
You’re starting to question life and your place in it.
Questioning and being curious is the SWEET SPOT.
Your Soul is knocking – maybe it’s time to slow down and listen.

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Feeling Uninspired Lately? Remember the Bigger Picture.

If you’re feeling off balance, overwhelmed, or disconnected from your spark – here’s a great shift in perspective that I often give my clients as a visual:

Imagine your life – from start to finish – as a book. I’ll use myself as an example.  The character in my book is named Nicki.  I’m playing her part – as a mother, wife, friend, etc.  Look beyond the book and notice the presence holding the book, reading it, and experiencing the story from start to finish (birth to death).  Who is this presence viewing the story?  This is your Soul.  And your connection to the Great Spirit.  When the story of Nicki ends someday, this presence will continue on.

See how I am both the character in the story AND the presence looking at the big picture and the full book of my life?  I’m both. 

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Let Go – You Are Right Where You Should Be

“We are only subject to a negative thought or belief if we consciously say that it applies to us. We are free to choose not to buy into a negative belief system.”
-David Hawkins, Letting Go

Try sitting a moment in silence and saying to yourself:  “Let Go.  Surrender to life’s natural, loving, flow.”

When sitting with that statement, notice (without judgement) what feelings arise in your body.  Relief?  Love?  Fear?  Guilt?

Letting go isn’t a passivity to life.  It’s not becoming a door mat.
Letting go is a shift in perception.  It’s living in state of giving and receiving what is yours – in the moment.  It’s living as the balanced observer of life rather than the victim.  It’s not about perfection either.  A part of us is still human, afterall!  Yes, I do get annoyed with my kids and my husband some days.  I’m just aware of when I’m doing it now.  It doesn’t overtake me.

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Wait – Who’s In Charge Here?

The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak,
the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.

-Elizabeth Cady Stanton

There are an endless number of books, theories, viewpoints, and ideas on what creates our reality.  What is it that influences the path of our lives?  What is orchestrating each connection with a new person, or connecting the dots to create an event, an abundance (or lack of), or new job, or whatever it may be into our life.  Popular theory is that you as a human have a lot to do with it.  You likely have used, or at least recognize, some main stream, self-help views to create these changes, such as:

-Think positively to get what you “want”
-Send out good vibes
-Visualize what you want
-Work hard and sacrifice in order to get what you want
-Write down your goals – then check them off your list
-Repeat positive affirmations
-Manifest what you want through positive intention

These all all nice and fine and I have nothing against them.  I use some of them and they work – sometimes.  And they bring the outcome I desire – on occasion.

But what about the times they don’t?

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Freedom vs. Resolutions

I’ve never really been in to New Year’s Resolutions.  Despite the fact that media and marketing wants us to believe a new year is a time to punish our bodies, or make us feel guilty about what we have or haven’t done, it seems most people have wisened up to the idea that resolutions don’t seem to work.  And they usually don’t feel good.

What if as the new year unfolds we instead acknowledge all that we already are?  What if you gave yourself permission to forgive yourself for anything you’ve done (or not done) in the past and accepted that you are right where you’re supposed to be?

Relax and feel the freedom in that.  Letting go of expectations is liberating and allows true creativity to flow from Soul and Spirit.

What if instead of fighting the body, we realize we aren’t the body?

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Reflections On Science & Spirituality & Allowing Yourself To Wonder

The enemy of science is not religion. Religion comes in endless shapes and forms…The true enemy is the substitution of thought, reflection, and curiosity with dogma.
-Frans de Waal

Growing up I always pictured God as a male figure, looming and looking down on me from the sky. Watching to see that I did everything right, was nice to others, said my prayers. A very simplistic, childlike view of God that was good and fine and taught with all good intentions at my church. I still have a strong faith in God/Spirit/Source (please don’t get hung up on the wording of God – use whatever you feel comfortable with) yet have always been torn by my highly analytical, experiential, and scientific outlook of the world as well. I am fascinated by the magic-like study of quantum physics, the interplay of the energies in and around us, as well as the power of our mind and body to heal itself.

I have finally come to a place in life where I’m comfortable with the Spiritual side of life as well as the Scientific. I believe they can co-exist – and realizing this has brought much more joy and purpose to my life.

The single biggest thing I teach my kids and those who are open to listening, is that God/Source is all around you, running through you, in the open space in front you as you sit here reading your screen, as well as in every cell of your body, down into your DNA. You cannot help but have this Universal, highly intelligent Spirit/Source/God energy running through you. In fact, it’s not even a choice. You are born of it. We are not separate from God; God is us.

This is why I cringe when someone says God is judging a certain person or group of people, or doesn’t accept a certain group. Because how can God judge someone who is him/herself? It doesn’t make sense. We are all one. Even those doing terrible things are in essence made of the same energy as you and me. So while I don’t want to go have a glass of wine with a murderer, and society rightly doesn’t embrace that behavior, we are all given free will – and even that person is a Divine being at their core. They’ve just lost their way here on Earth for a time.

I’m a visual person, so here is how I picture it. Imagine the giant, unimaginable greatness of the whole Universe. The vast expanse that continues out to who knows where. It boggles my mind. That is a huge energy field – and imagine God/Source as the whole of it. The outer edge (if there is one?) to the inner core and all the space in between. The best visual I can picture for this is Floam, the play stuff my kids like. It’s not perfect, but it’ll do for this post.

Imagine the pink in the image as God, or whatever you feel comfortable calling him/her – the creator of all that is. The planets, the stars, angels, spirits, humans, animals, trees, objects, thoughts – essentially everything – are all the tiny little white balls inside (imagine the inside of the balls as pink as well).

See how we are all encompassed by this Divine energy/God? Although we’re not all necessarily in the same dimension at once – we are in the same field. That’s what I feel and what I mean when I say we are all connected. This is also proven in quantum physics and written about in all forms of religious texts as well. We are like cells in the body of God. So that every thing our neighbor does, it effects not only themselves, but it moves and ripples the energy and the whole, to effect us too.

Just like all the cells, organs, meridians, etc. work together in our human body and affect our whole self- it’s also the same on a larger scale: we as people, as well as animals and nature, spirits that have crossed over, angels and spirit guides, interact together and affect the whole. Still with me? And all the while God is embracing everyone. Everyone. Because we are all surrounded and made up of God; of this Divine Energy. Not simply looked down on from above.

In this way, we are never alone. We are always surrounded by spirit, Divine energy, our Divine self. We are so much more powerful than we know. Every moment we are co-creating our life, our reality on Earth, with God/the energies within and around us.

This is why I encourage others to open up to their Divine Self through mediation and reflection. Through quiet moments, we can still our mind and experience the vast space between our thoughts where we can access all “that is”. The Universe. God. Science and Spirituality. We can come to realize that we are always surrounded by support and can access it through our Divine Self. We can create a life we love through our thoughts, intentions, and gratitude. I wish I could teach this to everyone, but it’s a journey we all take in different ways and it’s an inside job.

I hope this makes a bit of sense. This is what I’ve come to experience so far in this go-round on Earth, but I’m learning every day and I’m sure this view will evolve as I do. Maybe part of this will resonate with you. And maybe it won’t. But either way, I hope it gets you thinking and stretches you out of your comfort zone maybe.

We can each have different views, and if someone is telling you that their view is the only right way, that’s usually a good sign to walk away.  Because that’s the beauty of it all. It’s all unknown – we can only go by what we feel, what we experience, and faith.

In gratitude,
Nicki

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